To find it:
1. Locate the Power Distribution Box: This is usually a large black plastic box under the hood, often near the battery.
2. Open the PDB: There's usually a cover you can remove, often held in place by screws or clips. You might need a screwdriver or other small tool.
3. Consult your owner's manual: The best resource is the owner's manual for your specific vehicle. It will have a diagram of the PDB showing the location and function of each relay.
4. Look for a relay related to the fuel system: Even without the diagram, you can try to identify a relay that seems likely to control the fuel pump. This might involve looking for a relay that's in a location associated with the fuel system, or that is related to other fuel-system components.
5. Check for a relay connected to the fuel pump circuit: If you have a multimeter, you can use it to trace the circuit from the fuel pump back to the relay in the power distribution box. This will require disconnecting wires and potentially some electrical knowledge. Caution: Incorrectly probing electrical components can cause damage or injury.
Important Note: If you're not comfortable working with automotive electrical systems, it's best to take your vehicle to a qualified mechanic. Incorrectly handling relays or electrical components can damage your car or even cause a fire.