To find it, you'll need to:
1. Consult your owner's manual: This is the best place to start. The manual should have a diagram of the fuse box and relay locations.
2. Locate the underhood fuse box: It's usually a black plastic box near the battery, often on the driver's side fender well.
3. Open the fuse box cover: Look for a diagram inside the cover. This diagram should show the location of relays, often labelled with numbers and/or functions.
4. Look for a relay labeled "starter" or with a similar designation: Many times, it's labeled simply with a number.
5. If not in the fuse box: If you can't locate it in the fuse box, carefully examine the wiring harness and surrounding areas near the battery and starter motor itself. You might find a smaller relay box or a standalone relay mounted nearby.
Important Note: If you're not comfortable working on your vehicle's electrical system, it's best to take it to a qualified mechanic. Incorrectly working with relays and wiring can lead to damage or injury.