To find it, you'll need to consult your year-specific Pontiac GTO repair manual or online forums dedicated to that specific year model. Search online for "[your GTO year] Pontiac GTO fuse box diagram" or "[your GTO year] Pontiac GTO starter circuit diagram". The diagram will show you the location of the relevant relay or the PCM's role in the starter circuit.
Looking in the underhood fuse box is the most likely place to start your search.