The owner's manual will have a diagram of the fuse and relay box showing which position corresponds to the fuel pump relay. A wiring diagram will show the relay's function and may offer alternative ways to diagnose the issue.
Without the manual or diagram, you'll have to check each relay carefully by comparing it to descriptions online (including pictures) or by using a multimeter to test each relay and find the one that controls the fuel pump circuit. Always disconnect the negative battery terminal before working with relays or fuses.