1. Consult your owner's manual: This is the most reliable source. The manual will have a diagram of the fuse box showing the location of all relays and fuses.
2. Look for a relay that's labeled: Some relays might have labels indicating their function, such as "cooling fan" or a similar designation.
3. Use a wiring diagram: A wiring diagram specific to your vehicle's year and model (easily found online through various automotive parts websites or repair manuals) will show the relay's location and its connections to the cooling fan circuit. This is the most precise method if the other two fail.
4. Trace the wiring: If all else fails, you can carefully trace the wiring harness leading from the cooling fan motor to the fuse box. This will eventually lead you to the relay. Be cautious when working around electrical components.
Keep in mind that some vehicles might have multiple relays related to the cooling fan system (e.g., one for high speed, one for low speed). The owner's manual or wiring diagram will help clarify this.