To find it, you'll need to:
1. Consult your owner's manual: If you still have the original owner's manual, it should have a fuse/relay box diagram.
2. Look in the underhood fuse/relay box: Carefully examine the box. Many relays are clearly labeled, but some might not be. You may need to consult a wiring diagram (see below).
3. Use a wiring diagram: A wiring diagram specific to your 1985 Pontiac Fiero 2M4 SE 5-speed is your best bet. You can often find these online through Fiero forums (like fieroforum.com), or via a Haynes or Chilton repair manual for your vehicle. The diagram will show you the relay's location and often its circuit number. Look for a relay associated with the fuel pump circuit.
4. Use a multimeter (advanced): If you're comfortable with basic electrical work, you could use a multimeter to trace the fuel pump circuit. This involves finding the fuel pump wire and following it back to the relay. Caution: Always disconnect the battery's negative terminal before doing any electrical work.
Without a specific wiring diagram for your exact model year and trim, pinpointing the relay's location is difficult. Online Fiero forums dedicated to your specific model are your best resource to find someone who has encountered this same situation and can provide specific advice.