Because it's not always in the same exact spot, you should:
* Consult your owner's manual: This is the best resource for the precise location of your vehicle's ECM.
* Look for a large, rectangular black box with numerous connectors: The ECM is usually easily identifiable by its size and the number of electrical connections.
If you still can't find it after checking these resources, a mechanic or auto parts store employee should be able to point it out.