The best way to find it is:
1. Consult your owner's manual: This is the most reliable source. It will have a diagram of the fuse and relay box, showing the location of the fuel pump relay.
2. Locate the Power Distribution Box (PDB): It's usually a large black plastic box under the hood, often near the battery.
3. Look for a diagram on the inside of the PDB cover: Many PDBs have a diagram printed on the inside of the cover identifying each fuse and relay. The fuel pump relay is often labeled as such or may be indicated by a symbol (sometimes a gas pump symbol).
4. Use a multimeter: If you can't find it visually, you can use a multimeter to test the circuits going to the fuel pump. This requires some electrical knowledge and caution. Never work on the electrical system with the battery connected unless you know what you are doing.
5. Search online forums: Search for "1997 E-250 5.4 fuel pump relay location" on forums dedicated to Ford vans. Someone may have already posted a picture or detailed instructions.
If you're not comfortable working with automotive electrical systems, it's best to have a qualified mechanic locate and test the relay for you. Improperly handling electrical components can lead to damage or injury.